No, We like you guys...Really we do!

What I like to do with my blog is expose the myths that I believe divide our society on a daily basis. My aim is to give the readers another point of view so that maybe one day they my will understand or try to understand the 'other sides' plight. Because if there is one thing I hate it's an ignorant person trying to teach a subject they have no knowledge about. Furthermore, these people use their influence to make others think the way that they do when they themselves haven't even tried to educate themselves past the typical stereotypes. This if my futile attempt to change the world.


Today, I would like to address the myth of the “man hating lesbian”.

Yes, I’m calling it a myth because contrary to popular belief we (lesbians) do not hate men. In fact, many of us, including myself, grew up with several loving, male role models in our lives that we looked or continue to look up to. And, even more of us have men, gay or straight, that are friends...sometimes they're even our closest friends.

So, where did this myth come from?

Well, I’m not a sociologist but this is my view…
Women as a whole have trouble completely trusting men stemming form a bad history that they have either heard of or experienced themselves with men. Also, and all you Pastors out there need to write this down, almost 85% of woman, PERIOD, have experienced some type of sexual abuse. Be it at home, in the street or on a crowded train…eeewwww, flash back. And sometimes for a person who likes to be in control it’s hard for a woman knowing that most men can over power them and rape them at any moment.

Straight woman deal, with the sh*t because they love them and know that not all men are bad. We know this also…really we do…but it’s just that since we don’t need sex from men there is even less reason to want them around. Now, this is nothing to be offended over but some men can’t understand that some women don’t need them. But, they in turn need women to show them attention. Even if they are a lesbian, some men feel that deep down all women want d*ck. Which is NOT TRUE. A woman can like penetration but not like men; sorry to break it to you. Some men can’t get it through their hard heads that their hard heads are not the precious commodity that they thought they were so they will rape even the most butch looking women just to show that they are still the dominate one of the species.

Gay women resent this thinking so as a defense they simply try to stay away from most men. Another belief of mine is that some lesbians have a hard enough time finding mates and then to see women that they would love to love being mistreated and abused by men. From personal experience I can tell you I was IN LOVE with my roommate in college and wanted to snap the neck of her boy friend every time I had to console her after one of their arguments. I was like this woman is wasting away on this BOY.

Now, as far as Gay Men go with lesbians, I have never had any bad blood with them. People are people to me…no matter who they love. Some are assh*les and some are down the earth…I’m good friends with one and cool with others. But, I have seen the bad looks that they get when coming into a lesbian establishment and they are not pretty. Also, a friend of mine told me about an experience that he had just on line to get into a club that affected the way he views lesbians.

First of all I’d like to apologies for that even happening…because it shouldn’t…we should all be able to hang out and chill. Now, that being said, certain things run through the mind of a woman when we see ya’ll on the line. We ask ourselves, “Don’t you have enough places to look for women…why you got to try and pouch ours?” And we think that gay men have just as many if not more clubs that they can hang at, why they got to come into ours to? And some times there is just a vibe that you get when there is nothing but female energy in the room…and it feels good when we are just trying to have fun…mmm, just p*ssy everywhere…but I digress.

Sorry, guys but when we first see you all we see is a man; not a gay man but a man. So all those things I mentioned earlier come rushing back into our minds and we get on guard at first but hopefully we relax realize that you guys are not trying to threatening us…you just want to shake your ass too. And some of ya’ll can shake it better than us too….Don’t get gassed…I said SOME.

We love men seriously…some of us even get our sense of fashion of them…we just don’t LOVE love ya’ll. I hope that shed a little light on the subject and helps to bring us closer through conversation. So please tell me your thoughts…or past experiences with the subject.

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